Blog Intro

First of, I feel the need to warn every reader. I am not a professional writer. English is not even my first language.

Having said that, I am going to tell you a bit about that silly photo of my then 4 years old daughter. The photo was taken at my late husband’s memorial service. He had passed away from a very rare cancer, called Adrenal Corticol Carcinoma. This blog is not about this cancer. Even though the rarity of this cancer and it’s lack for funding, research and awareness is in dire need of it’s own blog. I have struggled with that aspect for a while. His time from diagnosis until death was 11 months. That was enough time to figure out what we were ‘good at’ and what I was ‘not good at’. I was good at letting go and helping him through this journey. My late husband, Ken, was good at going with the flow of extreme horror and finding a laugh at the most horrifying times.

Maybe that is the reason why our kids, then aged 2 and 4 years, managed pretty well during the sad times. My daughter finds the giggle and joke in anything. Visiting her daddy in the hospital, she never asked many questions. She was happy to be there, and played as if the hospital rooms were color full playgrounds. She sat smiling on her daddy’s hospice bed and kissed him a last time good night. And she found the fun and laughter at the memorial service.

As the months and now years continued to show us what we were made of and how we carried on, I can happily say that we had so much fun in times were society taught us to be sad.

In fact, the focus on sadness in death and dying or even in being sick is what makes it so difficult to move on. Instead of cherishing what we have then and there or even right now at this very moment, we dread the certainty of loosing our meat suit aka body. We dread it with such heavy hearts that the period of mourning for some drags on forever.

I remember distinctly how everyone commented on Ken’s age being too young to die. However, I also recall that he achieved everything he wanted during this life time. He just was not around to enJOY any of it for long. That mere fact, helped me move on. My kids and I focus on JOY.

This blog is for and from anyone that endures times of sadness throughout cancer treatments, other ailments, death and dying, etc.

Therefore, the focus on this page are the funny things that happened to us during the worst times in our life. It will be free of charge and it will live off the contributions that it receives from it’s readers.

I hope we all laugh a little more than we do and are able to shed the sorrow. Life is very short and who knows if we are even around tomorrow.

Much love,

Tanja